Sometimes a girl needs a little therapy

I mean real therapy. Some situations call for a psychologist or psychiatrist and not just a few drinks and a good cry with the girls.

And therapy's okay. I've done it. I admit I had no idea how to leave an abusive, narcissistic man. I also didn't know how to make it to the other side in one physical and emotional piece. Leaving wasn't easy, and the therapist helped. At our last session, she suggested I come back when I was ready to think about future relationships. She said she could help me make sure I didn't repeat that scenario, and I might take her suggestion when I'm ready.

A lot of people need therapy.

One friend in particular comes to mind. For the last several weeks, she's been obsessive about a guy she's crushed on for the last year. I don't blame her. He's a great guy. He's nice looking, has a good job and a gentleman. He's had many girlfriends over the last year. And they've teased each other, but a romantic relationship will never happen.

She's a hot mess. And those are her words, not mine.

This girl is also attractive. Sweet. Fun. Young. She also has a goal remain a virgin until marriage.

There's another reason there will be no big love affair with her big crush. He loves sex.

She's cried multiple times lately over this guy she never had. Can you mourn a loss of something that was never yours? Is it normal to cry night after night about a guy you never had? 

She also hangs out in bars and will down shots to keep up with the most seasoned drinkers. While she often dresses a little tomboyish, at times she's quite the little sex bomb. Skirts up to there with legs that come almost to my waist. Her favorite pastime in the bars (besides downing shots) is meeting hot guys and making out.

Uhm...are we in high school?

How long will friends remain if they get calls with sobbing into the phone in the middle of their business dinner? Will friends stay around long after night after night of downing shots until they hear slurred sobbing, whining, hopeless rambles about being "tired of looking," "been single for five years," and ready to just settle for "any guy who likes me"? Especially when she's only 23.

How long will friends babysit during the prince-who-will-honor-the-virgin hunts that turn into shot fests. How long will they be willing to worry when their friend insists on getting in the SUV she bought because she wants kids to drive home. Drunk. Especially when she's only 23.

She also insists she's independent. She doesn't need anyone. But she does.

It's okay to need a therapist.

Love to the single girls,
Addison