Primas

This goes out to all single girls out there - especially Latinas.

Use birth control. Religiously. 

And I don't mean standing up after your man comes inside of you or taking a shower to clean the sperm out. By then it's too late. It also means not trusting him to say he'll pull out first. The hope and pray method doesn't work either. Trust me. 

Use something that will keep you from getting pregnant - pills, IUD, implant - select your favorite from the menu. No matter your religion, use it. Religiously. 

This subject stuck with me because of some conversations I had with guys while on vacation. I'm less convinced the lack of birth control use is because of religious or economic reasons. I think it's cultural. Young women think having babies is cool, and collecting baby daddies is okay. I don't know if they want a ring on their finger or if it's just the baby they want. It doesn't really matter though since the outcome is always baby but no man.

Babies are not and never will be a fashion accessory. Even of your friends are collecting babies, YOU be the one who keeps your hot guy as your man and not your baby daddy. A baby clinging on is just not sexy. And the days of guys "doing the right thing" and marrying you are way over. It will almost certainly kill your romantic relationship. 

I don't usually sound preachy but there's no better way to shoot your chances for success and happiness than kids when your single. Life's tough enough already, and babies just make it harder.

Birth control is also to be used with a condom. You don't want the latest fad virus. STDs aren't sexy either. 

And all you hot men out there, don't let the girls trap you into being your baby mama. You use your condom and don't date them if they aren't using birth control.

Girlfriends are temporary. Kids are for life.

And guys, don't try any of your tricks either. "It's not as good with a condom. I'm clean so I don't need one. I want to come inside you." I've heard them all and they're bullshit.

Sex is beautiful and even more amazing when you're not worried about babies. Just have fun!

Love to the singlegirls,

Addison

P.S.  Prima is a term of endearment Latinas use with other girls.  It literally means cousin.