She only likes me when I'm married

Years ago I fell for my first love. It was my 17th birthday and he was almost 21. We met in a pub while I was living in another country. During my last eight months or so there, we hung out as friends. Then I went home and high school and life carried on.

We kept in touch though, and he visited the next summer. That's when it happened. The whole absence-makes-the-heart-grow-fonder cliche. It did, and we became a couple for the short while we were together.

Then we tried the long distance thing, but during the year before his summer visit, he met a woman. They dated then lived together then eventually married. Now they have two kids. I don't know if they're happy now or if they ever were.

She's the one who only likes me when I'm married.

Her hatred toward me was very clear the time I visited when I was still single. She didn't let me spend one second alone with her husband the few days we were together. We took a short outing when he took me by my old house and school and the pub where we met, and she insisted we take their four-year-old child with us. Did she really think we'd strip down and fuck in the car like teenagers? We had been a couple before they even met, so I'm not sure why she was so jealous and unsure of her relationship with him. 

Then my ex and I had a short visit with them during our honeymoon a few years later. During that trip, the wife was a different person. That hatred I saw before was gone. She was almost pleasant.

Now I'm single again, and I got a long email from him just now. He sent along three photographs that include himself and the two kids, but no wife (yes, they're still married). He's also asking about my change of address. Telling him means his wife might hate me again, but I think this single girl can handle it even though she can't.

If I decide to visit again, perhaps it will be a surprise and she'll never know.

Love to the single girls,
Addison