Make it happen

One of my friends has been dating the same guy for going on a year now. Lately the relationship has been a little rocky.

One of the problems has been about sex; rather lack of it. What couple who's only been in a relationship for eight months and lives within five miles of each other only has sex three times in February? She told me they hadn't been intimate at all this month, and it was past mid-month when we had this conversation.

"If you want something, you have to make it happen," I told her.

"I can't," she said. "I'm too fat. I'm afraid he doesn't want me."

"If he thought you were too fat, you probably wouldn't be dating," I said. "How do you know he's not thinking you don't want him?"

She didn't.

The scenario was perfect. He had been out of town for his grandmother's funeral.

"When he comes home tomorrow, doll up in something that makes you feel as pretty as you are," I said. "Then just do it. Attack him so he has no choice."

A couple of days later, I texted her. "Did you have a happy homecoming?"

She did.

It's sometimes hard to keep your confidence up when you're single and don't have that partner at home to build you up. And not every girl in a relationship has a partner who communicates well and believes in you. If you do, you're one of the lucky ones.

I hope to have that someday.

Love to the single girls,
Addison