If you say no the first time - Dating rule #2

New Year's Eve eve kicked off the parties. It was a friend's birthday so we celebrated at a couple of local pubs after the dinner party my friend and I hosted wrapped up.

The 6'4" guy was there. He's always around, and that night seemed to be there every time I turned around. We didn't talk there but I wanted closure. He did go to my friend's place for the after party. And I got closure.

He walked over and I said, "I want to tell you my main rule of dating . . . "

"We weren't dating," he said.

"I know - whatever you call it. My main rule of seeing men. If you're not man enough to kiss in front of friends you're not man enough to have sex with me."

"You're great in bed but I guess we disagree. I hope we can still be friends."

Really?

"We'll see," I said.

"I hope so," he said. "You have to understand, I would give up sex for alcohol."

That's a deal breaker. Even for a casual relationship.

Then I leaned up from the bottom stair I was standing on to kiss him, and he pushed me away just like what started all of this. "You know how I feel about that," he said.

"And you know how I feel about it." I leaned up again and we kissed. I had my last word.

The conversation made me think about how important it is to follow your gut and dating rule #2. If you say no when someone asks you out the first and second and third time, keep saying no. It's the right answer.

Persistence is not a good quality in dating - or whatever you call it.

Love to the single girls,
Addison