Something else I love about being single

As a single girl, I love my friends even more. And I appreciate being able to see them more frequently than before.

My ex never liked my friends. He didn't like anybody - well, unless there was something in it for him. My friends were either not pretty enough or too gay or didn't meet his in-shape standards or didn't like the music he liked or too . . . .  There was always something. He liked one friend because she's beautiful and another because she's married to a former pro football player. So I saw my friends when I could. Without him.

Today one of my first great friends I met when I hadn't lived in this big city very long stopped by. She was in the area after seeing former work colleagues for a Thanksgiving lunch. She walked into my place, pulled off her stiletto boots and chillaxed on the sofa in front of the window for a couple of hours. It's the spot in my living room where everyone feels most at home. I think I'll name it my Zen spot. It's where I nap sometimes too. Yes, the happy, Zen spot.

I hadn't seen her in a couple of months, but we just caught up like it was yesterday. She's the one who helped me survive my early 20s and all of the stupid things I did when I was young, foolish and single.

We talk about everything. Probably more than we should. Who's going out with whom. Which ones are cheating on the other. Her family and mine. Is she happy and am I. She told me I should rearrange my furniture to make room for parties. And she told me I was the only one of her friends who still had sex with her husband. And I just did it to keep the peace. So he wouldn't totally explode on me until I figured out how to leave. But that's a whole other posting.

And she was one of the few my ex liked. She speaks Spanish and he was trying to learn. She offered to help me move out, and she invited me to her house for Thanksgiving next week in case I'm tired of my family. But that's another posting too.

Every day I'm thankful for the people who have been my friends for years. And I'm amazed by and thankful for the few people I've met in the last couple of years. I feel like I've know these special friends for life. And maybe we did in a past life. If I haven't told you lately how much I love you, I do! (you know who you are xx).

Hug a friend today.

Love to the single girls,
Addison