Lost identity

Over the weekend, I got to do something I love with people I enjoy. We were all fiction writers who came together to learn. Our companies didn't pay our way and we all gave up valuable weekend time to learn. We were there because we wanted to be.

Being there made me think about all of the people who give up things they used to enjoy when they were single but quit doing them once they had family commitments. Jobs, careers, daily exercise - or other things they're really committed to like music, art or writing. Some had to drop things they love because they honestly din't have time. It's all about priorities, and many girls can scale back on their children's activities so mommy can have a life.

What really breaks my heart is when I see a single girls settle into a relationship with a boyfriend and completely adapt to the boyfriend's life. Their schedule. Their hobbies. Their friends rarely see them and suddenly the brilliant painter has stopped painting to take up golf. "He wants us to do it together" or "He doesn't like it when I'm away from him." she'll say.

Sometimes it was a hobby but sometimes it was a career. But why? Why does any girl have to stop doing something they feel is important just because someone else suggests they do? Just because someone may not be getting enough attention?

Doing what you love is the best way to keep your identity - and your happiness.

Love to the single girls,
Addison