What? They barely know each other's last names. It would be like taking a spoon to the sugar canister instead of eating a slice of cake. Or even better, like taking a bite out of the cow grazing in the pasture rather than the cooked steak.
A real relationship doesn't happen until weeks and months have passed. Two people have to get to know each other. Blend. The relationship needs to gel and mature while each also keeps an independent life - and a separate address.
In New York the other day, I caught up with a friend I met last summer. Her husband shattered her perfect family with the perfect two kids in the perfect home when he asked for a divorce a couple of years ago. She's just a little ahead of me in her single life and started dating a man last summer that she liked at the time. One thing led to another, and now he's moved in. Her space is now also his because he no longer has his own. She regrets it and wants to have separate addresses. But how do you kick a guy out of your home without kicking the relationship out with him?
My two neighborhood friends have it right. Not long ago, a group of us were at a local restaurant listening to a singer. I looked down on the floor and saw her bag with a toothbrush sticking out and laughed as I grabbed my camera. It was her sleep-over-at-her-boyfriend's bag.
She was embarrassed when I snapped a pic. I don't know why though. Everyone does it at some point. I'm guessing there are panties, a change of clothes and some makeup in that bag too. Their relationship is approaching its one-year anniversary, and she has her address and he has his. They spend lots of days and nights together but not all. Their goal is to maintain independent lives so they appreciate their life together more.
What's your move-in story and the most unique item in your sleep-over-at-the-boyfriend's bag?
Love to the single girls,
Addison
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