There's an art to grunge - Dating rule #3

The other night at the bar, the night my friend was such a sloppy drunk, turned out to be a good night for me. When I first arrived, I went to the bar to grab a glass of wine.

"You smell good," a male voice said.

I looked over and it was the man sitting at the bar who had turned around in my direction. Then we both realized we had met a few months ago. We talked some then but he had a girlfriend at the time. Now he doesn't.

Then I walked back to my friends and said all of my hellos, which usually comes with a hug. Some people don't have that fresh, I-showered-today smell. I'm not sure if it's their hair, clothes or bodies, but I'm not sure a few of them had showered in a day or two.

Dating rule #3 - make sure they wash themselves and their clothes.

A lot of people like to have that grunge look. Two-day beard, messy hair, ripped jeans and a flannel shirt with a ripped t-shirt. This look is great, but clothes, bodies and hair are clean. Grunge may be messy , but it doesn't mean looking homeless.

When I first moved to this area, one of my long-time friends (from before I even knew my ex), hung out with me in the area a couple of times. She told me I stuck out here.

"Everyone's so grunge and you're too put together. Miss perfect," she said.

I don't know, I guess it's just who I am.

The 6'4" guy I've written about a couple of times recently tries to pull it off. He does the button-up shirt unbuttoned with a t-shirt underneath. But it always looks like he pulled the shirts from his closet floor where they've been wadded up since last Memorial Day. My good friend laughed at him because of this - especially after he treated me so badly.

She got so annoyed with him about so many other things, one thing I hadn't mentioned to her is a part she couldn't see. His hippie-looking pubes. I'm afraid she would've laughed in his face. Maybe he needs that. Yes, pubes should be groomed. It's part of being clean. It's a deal breaker.

The guy I ran into again and I talked off and on throughout the night and exchanged numbers. I wonder if things would've happened that way if his nose hadn't caught a scent he liked. He smelled good too.

Love to the single girls,
Addison