Beware of rebound man - Dating rule #5

I'm sharing this one, but it's really aimed at me. I'm breaking one of my own basic dating rules.

Dating rule #5 is never settle for the first guy you meet after a breakup. And beware of the guy who's just out of a relationship. Don't fall for them or let them fall for you. Either way they're rebound guy.

I'm past my first guy since my ex and I split. Way past it. But I still have to be careful of the guys who are seeing freedom for the first time in a while.

This is all about the new guy - the one I'm certain is one of the good ones. His girlfriend of seven years just moved out of his house over the Christmas holidays. He's done with her physically, emotionally, logistically. In fact, he started living virtually alone at least six or eight months ago even though she lived in another bedroom in his house. He started paying all of the bills and doing all of the chores. He also stopped saying I love you and kissing her good morning and good night.

But he's only lived alone for two weeks. And I think he was faithful to her until she moved out - until he met me.

Now everything's all ambiguous. I have the same problem as always - the guy's words don't sync with his actions. Usually they say how much they like me and then go all private, not wanting anyone to know.

Now I've got a guy who treats me like a princess. He kisses me in front of others, puts my coat on me, goes out of his way to open doors. We've been out three times since I ran into him again last week, and we communicate in some way every day. He insists on paying the tab and even holds my hand walking down the street.

His words are different though. He tells me we're just friends. He wants to meet people. Get out and be a little wild with the ladies. I'm all for that since I'm doing the same. He tells me our friendship is first and sex is second.

His actions say they're both important. He's an amazing lover, and he tells me it's the best sex he's had in at least a decade. Last night we only made inside the front door about five steps to the kitchen before we had our clothes off. He takes me to places I've never been before. We're magical together. Is this a friendship?

I don't want to share. He's on the rebound and he should meet other girls, but I don't want to see him do it. I don't want to watch him treat another girl like he treats me. And I've set the bar high for those other girls. If he comes back when the other girls don't measure up, he won't be rebound guy any more.

Until then, we'll continue being the friends we are. Ans I will beware of the new good guy who's on the rebound.

Love to the single girls,
Addison