Violence is a deal breaker

The other night, I met a group at a restaurant down the street to hear a friend perform. He's a talented guitarist and for about the six months or so had played with a female singer who sang everything from Adele to Zeppelin. They were good - both talented on their own and very entertaining together.

They were. Now they've broken up. It appears the partnership ended because she got back with her ex. According to my guitarist friend, she's pregnant with her second child, her ex hit her again and they went away for the weekend recently and got married.

Everything about this scenario is wrong.

She told me a few months ago how shy she is - except when she's on stage. Singing brings her out of her shell and let's her shine. Now that shine is gone because of an abusive ex boyfriend; now husband. It breaks my heart.

Although my situation wasn't one of the world's worst, it was bad. Sometime explosive. I had to get out, and I did. Going back is and never will be an option. Ever. Life as a single girl is so amazing compared with the alternative. Money may get tight, loneliness is possible and it may seem a little scary. But the physical and emotional abuse is gone. No matter what single life throws at you, nothing beats making your own decisions, being free and living away from someone else's control and anger.

No one should ever have to live in fear.

Love to the single girls,
Addison