Who's sneaky?

Sneaky has come up a whole lot lately. I guess it's the time of year?

We all sneak around when we have to. Sometimes sneaking around is good - like hiding Christmas presents or a surprise party. Sometimes it's not so good.

Last night I was at a happy hour I organized for a professional group I belong to. One of the guys there suggested he'd order appetizers and put them on his tab. But when I put them on mine, he called me sneaky. I guess that one was a good thing?

Speaking of happy hour, a friend was having drinks with her boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. It seemed odd that she ordered a shot and downed it real quick while he was outside smoking. They're both big drinkers, so I'm not sure why she felt the need to sneak a shot. And sneaking around in a relationship means there's almost always an end in sight.

I hid a relationship with another guy from my husband for the last two years of my marriage. I've written about it before, so you may know he was a big part of helping me get to where I am today emotionally. My ex was so clueless he never noticed the extra travel, the texts, messages and other clues. It's the only time I've ever done it and I don't think I'll ever do it again, but it's what I had to do to help gather the confidence to leave. Some might judge, but from my vantage point, this was a good kind of sneaking.

Sometimes sneaking isn't so easy. Saturday night at the party I didn't really want to attend, my friend and I decided to sneak out. He left first so we wouldn't look so conspicuous. Afterwards, I mentioned how the people standing near the door said.

"Are you sneaking out?" someone asked me.

"Uhm, no, I have to meet someone." I'm such a bad liar I didn't know what to say.

My friend suggested how easy it is to sneak away. "Just answer your phone and walk outside to take the call," he said.

"But I have a chip and dip serving dish and a purse in my hands. How do you explain that?" This time, he didn't know what to say.

And speaking of parties, I'm having a party for my closest friends in a few weeks. One of my long-time friends wants to sneak another date to it. Someone other than her husband, whose name is on the invitation. She even suggested bringing the married guy who's been chasing me for years. I had to tell her if I wanted him there, I would have invited him. She'd better not sneak him there anyway. That would be a bad thing.

Love to the single girls,
Addison